Testimonials

We are eternally grateful to the Householders for providing our adopted daughter a safe place to live and learn for three years. I came to know them during this time as people of faith with sterling character who are committed to their mission and undaunted by the challenges of proving a complete community for teenaged girls who were as far from content as anyone could be. I trust them completely. They understand the challenges of attachment disorder, fetal alcohol effect, and early neglect that these girls carry.

While our daughter lived with us, she brought chaos, lying, stealing and raging behaviors into our home and family. She was at serious risk for everything from drug abuse, teen pregnancy, criminal behavior, homelessness, you name it. Our daughter needed time to gain maturity, to decide to change, and to learn to make healthy, safe choices. She needed a level of high structure and accountability that we could not provide. It was only available within a single community, like Circle of Hope, that provides home, school and church all in one place. It provided her a chance to gain maturity and stay safe, while it provided our family a chance to find peace and relief from the exhausting work of parenting her. I thought the school might be able to save her, but in reality, it saved our family. I can recommend the Householders and the school without reservation.

There are those who have never lived with one of these children who do not understand what it is like. They can be detractors of the school, and their opinions can be found on the internet. There are girls at the school who will be distortionists. From time to time, they will find ways to make allegations of abuse or neglect. It is what they do. I do not know how the Householders find the strength and courage to stay the course and keep going with the challenges except by faith. I hold them in the highest regard.

Not all of these children can be changed. In the end, the child must decide she wants to change. Since leaving Circle of Hope, our daughter has entered Job Corps, earned her GED and is now working full time on her job training. She still has a long way to go to become a productive citizen, but while at Circle of Hope, she safely navigated what may have been the most dangerous time in her life. At the moment, she is on the right track. We hope she keeps going.

Thank you, Householders!

Ann M. Lokey
 

May 22, 2017

 
May 2017

 Dear Prospective Parents,

It’s been one year since our family got our sanity back when our daughter went to Circle of Hope. We had been through three years of hell where she honed her skills at lying, manipulation, and cruelty and did her best to destroy us. She had a history of reactive attachment disorder as a young child and displays the signs of borderline personality disorder as a teen. She’d been kicked out of a group home for troubled girls, ran through the whole state system for mental health care and had a knack for turning the professionals we sought for help on us as the problem. We were worn out, feeling hopeless and had exhausted every resource trying to help her. That’s when an attachment therapist recommended Circle of Hope. Since she went there, we have been able to rest and our wounded hearts have started to heal.

Mrs. Steph and Bro. House have been able to give her the stability, predictability, and structure she needs to begin to address her issues. She doesn’t want to do “therapy,” but simple God-centered accountability is the best therapy in the world. Her honeymoon period lasted about six months before she started showing her true colors, and besides the weekly letters written by our daughter, Stephanie has kept me updated on her real progress. Right now, it doesn’t look like progress in the sense that she’s doing better managing her behavior, but it is progress because she’s not faking it and fooling anyone. She’s throwing everything she has at them and it’s not making a dent. I’m always impressed by the calm professionalism in Stephanie’s voice. Nothing I told her before she went there rattled her, and nothing has since. She really knows how these girls struggle and has authentic agape love for them despite the difficulties they throw at her. I can tell that my daughter is learning to trust them because she always gets the same result: calm and loving direction, and predictable consequences when she blows it.

Bro House is a good-humored teddy bear. Don’t be fooled by the no-nonsense exterior! He’s got a soft spot for these troubled kids, but you can depend on his inner strength. He’s not going to get manipulated. I can tell my daughter has genuine affection for him because he’s kind yet firm, and respect for him because he does what he says. I couldn’t have dreamed up better people to have put her in their care.

What’s truly inspiring is how they continue to encourage her when she falls. They’re Christians who walk the walk. Scripture is woven throughout their day as a reminder of “Truth with a capital T” and to allow God to convict and guide their hearts. I’m continually surprised to hear my daughter talk about the sermons from church and things the Lord has been making her aware of in her letters. I think this is because living a self-aware spiritual life is something the Householders model and she’s beginning to catch on that God is real and loves her despite everything.

Every messed up kid should have a chance to straighten up in an environment like this. This isn’t a place to just stick your kid because you can’t handle them. This is a place where they’re going to grow and be parented wisely. I know that this time is not wasted in her life, it’s really re-building the foundation I was afraid had crumbled, and giving her a second chance at making it. I will be eternally grateful for the Householders and what they’ve done for her and us. If you have any questions for me, please ask Mrs. Steph to forward your contact info and I will call you asap. I’d be happy to share our experience in more detail and, hopefully, help you make the best decision for your daughter and find some peace and rest.

Sincerely,

Julie 

IVAN AND GAE BERGMAN  

ON JUNE 24, 2013, WE TRAVELED TO MISSOURI FROM EAST TEXAS TO DROP OF A VERY ANGRY, DISRESPECTFUL, UNTRUTHFUL, SEXUALLY ACTIVE, BACKTALKING TEENAGER AT CIRCLE OF HOPE GIRLS RANCH. WE HAD REACHED OUR BREAKING POINT AND DID NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO TO KEEP HER FROM FURTHER DESTRUCTION, DESTROYING OUR FAMILY AND POSSIBLY WORSE. EVEN THOUGH IT WAS A HEARTBREAKING DECISION, WE FELT A PEACE WHEN WE PULLED ONTO THE PROPERTY. OUR DAUGHTER WOULD NOT SPEAK TO US, HUG US BYE, JUST HAD A TOUGH KID ATTITUDE AND WE WERE HORRIBLE FOR DOING THIS. BUT WE WERE GONNA LOOSE HER EVEN MORE IF WE DID NOT DO SOME TOUGH LOVE. WE JUST COULD NOT REACH HER.

WITHIN A FEW MONTHS OF BEING THERE SHE CALLED AND TOLD US SHE HAD BEEN SAVED. TALK ABOUT A BLESSING! GOD HAD USED THE HOUSEHOLDERS TO BREAK THROUGH WHAT WE COULD NOT! WE COULD TELL A DIFFERENCE IN HER EVEN WITHOUT SEEING HER…….COULD HEAR IT IN HER VOICE. IT’S LIKE YOU COULD SEE THE SMILE THROUGH THE PHONE.

WHEN OUR FIRST VISIT CAME, WE COULD NOT BELIEVE THE CHANGE IN HER! IT WAS SURE NOT THE GIRL WE LEFT THERE. SHE HAS A SMILE, IS RESPECTFUL, ACTUALLY LAUGHS, HELPFUL AND WANTS THE LORD TO GUIDE HER LIFE. IT WAS A 360 FROM WHAT WE WERE USED TO.

ON JUNE 25, 2015 SHE ACTUALLY COMPLETED THE PROGRAM. AT THE TIME OF THIS LETTER IT IS MAY OF 2017, ALMOST TWO YEARS AFTER COMPLETION, BUT HAS CHOSEN TO STAY AND HELP OTHERS, AND SHE LOVES IT THERE. OUR DAUGHTER HAS AN AMAZING GPA AND WILL BE GOING TO COLLEGE AND THEN RETURNING TO CIRCLE OF HOPE AFTER COMPLETION OF HER COLLEGE TO HELP RUN THE RANCH. WE ARE SO PROUD OF HER AND WHAT HAS BEEN ACCOMPLISHED. SHE HAS BEEN TAUGHT TO BE AND DRESS LIKE A YOUNG LADY AND NOT A TRAMP. SHE CARES ABOUT OTHERS AND WANTS TO HELP OTHER GIRLS THAT ARE GOING THROUGH THINGS SHE WENT THROUGH.

WE ARE SO GRATEFUL TO CIRCLE OF HOPE AND GOD FOR GIVING US OUR DAUGHTER BACK. I HONESTLY DO NOT KNOW WHAT WOULD HAVE HAPPENED TO HER IF NOT FOR THIS WONDERFUL RANCH AND CARING PEOPLE! OUT DAUGHTER LOVES AND CHERISHES THE HOUSEHOLDERS AS WELL AS WE DO FOR THE LOVE AND CARE THAT THEY SHOW AND HAVE SHOWN. I RECOMMEND CIRCLE OF HOPE FOR ANYONE THAT IS AT THE END OF THEIR ROPE WITH THEIR DAUGHTER. I KNOW THERE ARE THINGS OUT ON THE WEB THAT SAY HORRIBLE THINGS ABOUT THE RANCH………BUT PLEASE DON’T READ OR BELIEVE THAT. MANY GIRLS OR PARENTS PUT THINGS ON THERE THAT ARE NOT TRUE JUST BECAUSE THEY ARE ANGRY ABOUT SOMETHING. TAKE IT FROM A PARENT THAT IS LIVING PROOF THAT CIRCLE OF HOPE IS A GODSEND. AND WE THANK THE HOUSEHOLDERS FOR LOVING OUR DAUGHTER THROUGH THE TOUGH ROAD THAT SHE WAS ON.

 
 
 
 
Shane & Jennefer Campbell November 2015

 

We want to thank Circle of Hope and the Householders for providing our daughter a safe environment. Due to our daughter’s behavioral and emotional problems, our psychologist recommended we find  placement out of harm’s way for her.  Our hearts and minds have been eased by the 24 hour safety Circle is able to give her. We know she is well –cared for and her needs are met.  While at Circle of Hope, our daughter has been provided many opportunities to learn a good work ethic, moral values and life skills to help her now and in the future.  One of the elements we love most about Circle is the much needed structure it offers in a rural setting.

 

Before placement at Circle, our home had become fractured and hostile. We were daily living in crisis mode. Since our daughter has been at Circle, we have been able to get some much needed emotional healing and rest. We aren’t worrying around the clock about keeping her safe. In addition, our communication with her has gotten a little better.

At Circle, the girls are taught about the love, mercy and forgiveness of Jesus. Bro. House and Mrs. Steph have a desire to help the girls realize the reconciliation found in Christ can be applied in their families and homes as well. We have had many discussions with Bro. House and Mrs. Steph and their desire to see the girls’ hearts and lives truly changed. On a visit at Thanksgiving, Bro. House said if even one girl is changed then all of their time and effort is worth it. This leads us to believe Circle of Hope cares about the complete transformation of our daughter.

While we know our daughter has a long way to go, we are so thankful Circle of Hope is walking alongside us in this journey!

Shane & Jennefer Campbell

Scott Rady February 23, 2015 

   My daughter has been under the leadership of the Ranch for a short time, and I have complete peace that she is in the best place for her at this time in her life. My wife and I were praying for direction to deal with the struggles our daughter was creating in our life, due to poor choices concerning friends. As my wife and I tried to steer her in healthy choices the more distant from our family, she became, barely associating with her sisters and becoming rebellious toward us. As things went from bad to worse, some of a parent’s worst fears were starting to show up in our daughter’s life, We examined the entire situation over and over trying to figure where we as parents had gone wrong and what could we do to prevent any further delay in our daughter’s life before it was too late.

   We started to look for a place with people more qualified to deal with the storm clouds on the horizon. Through the recommendation of our pastor, much prayer, and research we decided to look at several possible locations. After calling and speaking to other locations, visiting others and then meeting the leadership of Circle of Hope Girls Ranch, we knew the differences that secured our decision. Primarily, they looked at what they do as a ministry. With true concern for the well-being of the girls entrusted to their care.

   It was one of the most difficult decisions of our lives.

   Bathed in prayer and fasting, turning over the responsibility of raising our daughter to others. After being there. Seeing the atmosphere in person. The interaction was set in real concern. My wife and I both knew. No other placed compared.

   The leadership prioritized things of importance in the raising and education of our daughter, just as we would. The life skills and disciplines they focus on are the most important thing they instill in the girls they are preparing for life. The decision-making skills based on truths.

   My wife and I have seen changes in our daughter already and are confident there will be more. The environment they have created, with both positive and negative reinforcement; reward and consequences done consistently for the edification of the girls is a difficult job. I know they draw strength from the Creator who’s Name is above all Names, Our Saviour Jesus, Whom they serve.


 
 
 

Andrew and Julie Allbright -- 4-20-2014
Our daughter has been at Circle of Hope for almost 3 years. When she was sent to Circle of Hope, she had no respect for authority, was stealing, lying, and sneaking out, getting suspended from school, acting out inappropriately and being destructive. It was impossible to spend any quality time with her. Since coming to Circle of Hope, her behaviors have changed dramatically. Our family is now able to enjoy quality time with her and we are amazed with her progress. We do not feel this progress would have been possible without the loving, structured and supportive environment provided at Circle of Hope. We feel the Householders are doing God’s work. We have nothing but the utmost respect and admiration for the program the Householders are running. Circle of Hope is positively changing the lives of each young lady and saving families.
 
 


 
 
Mr. and Mrs. Mark Ducharme
 
"We cannot thank Circle of Hope (Brother House and Miss Steph) enough for what they have done for not only our daughter but our entire family. When we began our journey with Circle of Hope Girls Ranch we were broken - Crissi was out of control and her behavior was tearing our family apart. Crissi had already been sent to two state run facilities, and served a brief stint in a juvenile delinquency facility (due to behaviors at one of the state facilities).

After our experience with the state programs (from which she picked up even worse behaviors) we decided to enroll her in a private, Christian Academy - designed for troubled youth. Within two weeks we received the dreaded call - they could not handle Crissi. They wanted her to leave immediately. This posed a problem as the school was in Mississippi and we reside in New Hampshire. The school referred me to yet another private school (a smaller one that handled kids with extreme behaviors). I had no choice but to have her transported to that school while we tried to find a permanent solution - a school that really could address her needs. This is how we finally found Circle of Hope. We travelled to Mississippi, picked Crissi up and began the trek to Humansville, MO.
When we arrived at Circle of Hope, Brother Householder came out to greet us. I knew from that moment we had found the right place - God had sent us there for a reason. Crissi refused to get out of the car. Crissi had a horrible attitude, was at least 60 pounds overweight with extremely low self-esteem and on medication for hypothyroidism and pre-diabetes. Brother House took me inside and showed me around, introduced me to several girls as well as his wife, Stephanie. Brother House and Stephanie explained the program to me in depth and the girls I met were extremely polite and well mannered, they really respected the Householders and had genuine smiles on their faces. Brother House proceeded to persuade Crissi to get out of the car and come inside. This was a life changing moment - on November 10, 2009.

Now, over two years later, Crissi is a new person. She has lost weight and is in great shape - no longer taking any medication. She will be graduating soon from the program and we have had several successful on-site as well as home visits. She has accepted Jesus Christ as her lord and Saviour and is determined to be a role model for her siblings. She is ready for her "second chance" to come home and be a productive, loving member of our family. The Householders - Circle of Hope Girls Ranch - along with the grace of God, succeeded where everyone else, including myself, failed. Through their loving, yet firm, hands, they have molded my child into the person she was meant to be - and for this, we will be forever grateful.

God bless the Circle of Hope Girls Ranch and the extraordinary work they do."

Mr. and Mrs. Mark Ducharme